Sex and the City

Sex and the City. The lasting impact this show has made on me and many other viewers is permanent. From fashion to female friendships to Sunday brunches. And not only did this genius series eradicate the absurd sexual double standard, it showed women that it's actually okay to speak about and even have sex! But personally, the most significant impact this show had on me was the way it made me feel about love.

I've heard it said many ways, many times. That you aren't supposed to love another unless you love yourself first. I mean how can we expect someone else to love us if we can't even love ourselves? All that makes sense. And say we do know and love ourselves. Still, what is real and true love supposed to feel like? Because although I've been in love, it doesn't change the fact that i'm writing these words alone, my heart unattached, still not really knowing.

The answer lies in one amazingly accurate quote Sarah Jessica Parker says suring the finale of Sex and the City:

"I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't live without-each-other love".

This one quote has pushed me to re-evaluate my stance on love and understand that this is what I desperately seek in my perfect relationship. I understand that there is no perfect relationship and no love comes without flaws, but I know the imperfections will come together to create one unique, perfect relationship. I know this love exists. I admit I have not seen too many of this love around, atleast not in the real world. But enough to believe that this love exists. And therefore, I will not settle. And that's why, when confronted with secure and comfortable love, I will choose unattachment, because my heart, mind and soul will feel empty discontentment.

And if it takes me a very long time to find this all-consuming love, aside from being terribly unfortunate, I will have to wait. Damn.